It’s all about building relationships.
Intellectually, I know that you understand that.
But if that’s the case…why does most everyone insist on SELLING people at the very first opportunity?
Maybe it’s that old Glenn Gary/Glenn Ross bit about ABC (Always Be Closing). Great theater, but lousy sales advice.
I’m not saying that it can’t be done-I just know that if I try to use hyper-aggressive salesmanship I’ll wind up looking like a complete idiot. (And believe me I did get seduced a couple of times and tried selling using someone else’s “voice” and it was damn embarrassing.)
Here’s my belief…Getting people with whom you don’t have a relationship to buy from you is VERY HARD.
Selling to people who don’t know you requires an awful lot of work. A lot of “convincing” people to do business with you.
Personally, I don’t like having to try to convince anyone to work with me.
So I don’t.
The interesting thing is that by the time that they talk with me, they’ve already sold themselves on working with me. I don’t have to “convince” them.
Which is a good thing since I’m not a particularly good salesperson.
But I am a good marketer.
You can be too. Here’s a secret…
If you never want to have to “sell” anybody again, you need to develop a little bit of patience.
I’ll tell you what I mean.
Think 3-Steps rather than One.
Right now, odds are that you’re thinking one step. “Find a person who needs what I offer and sell it to them.”
My suggestion is that you replace that with,
1) Find a person who needs what you offer and make them curious to learn a little bit more about you.
2) Communicate with that person so you start to build a bond with them.
3) Then, and only then, can you sell them on the benefits that they’ll get from working with you.
I know, you’ve heard that before, but the reality is that hardly anyone does it.
Which is somewhat ironic.
The reason people don’t do it is because they think it will drag out the sales cycle.
The reality is that not having a multi step process actuality makes your sales cycle much longer. You tend to sell too hard/too early. (Even though you know you shouldn’t.)
So, start off with creating interest and desire in what you offer. The easiest way is to offer a really interesting free report.
In my world that was my Gentle Rain Free Report that teaches a process for getting lots of new clients with no cold calling or hard selling.
That was my first report and it’s still the workhorse. Every day 30 people on average come to my site and opt-in to get it. Over time I’ve added additional free offers, the most recent being my book Unique Sales Stories.
But, what I never do, (and this is the reason why none of us have to ever get into the “selling” business unless we want to) is to attempt to sell people who are not on my subscriber list.
And the reason is simple.
I don’t have a relationship with them.
And since I don’t, I’d have to ‘convince” them to do business with me.
Which sounds very unpleasant.
I suppose at this point, since I do have a relationship with you, I should try to sell you something. Unfortunately I don’t really have anything new at the moment.
I am thinking about conducting a live event in Atlanta in mid-November. It would be a one day live workshop on creating your unique sales stories and then how to publicize them. If I did it, I’d keep the group small so we could actually get a lot of work done and get feedback on our sales stories. I’d want to make sure everyone walks away with great sales stories they can use immediately one-on-one, or in sales letters, or on their websites. I don’t think I’d charge a lot-maybe around $250 a person.
Might be fun.
Anyway it’s something I’m playing around with. If you think you’d like to attend, shoot me an email and let me know. If there’s enough interest I may go ahead.
But, the real important point that I want to leave you with is that although we intellectually understand it’s all about building relationships, you’ve got to have a process in place that enables you to build a bond with your prospects and clients. The good news is that if you take it step by step, it’s not that hard to accomplish.
The biggest obstacle is getting started.
But isn’t that always the case?
Food for thought. Talk with you soon.
Mark
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